Founder Brittany Catton Kirk enjoys some pet therapy during Sunlight Retreats' first retreat for rape survivors, held in San Diego in January of 2018. A second retreat is scheduled for Aug. 24-26, 2018. (Courtesy photo)

Founder Brittany Catton Kirk enjoys some pet therapy during Sunlight Retreats' first retreat for rape survivors, held in San Diego in January of 2018. A second retreat is scheduled for Aug. 24-26, 2018. (Courtesy photo)

Column | For rape survivors, one weekend can change everything

By Karla Peterson, The San Diego Union Tribune

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JULY 25, 2018, 2:25 PM

In many ways, San Diego’s first Sunlight Retreats session looked like any other women’s getaway weekend. It was held in a bucolic setting. There were yoga classes and acupuncture treatments. There were lessons in healthy cooking.

There were also visits by therapy dogs. And multiple workshops with trauma specialist Dr. Shiva Ghaed. And classes in self-defense.

 In fact, the first Sunlight Retreats weekend — held in January in an undisclosed location — was not like anything its 15 attendees had ever experienced before. The retreat was designed for rape survivors by a rape survivor, and the goal was to jump-start a healing process that founder Brittany Catton Kirk knew from experience could be a long time in coming.

“I feel like I was swimming in quicksand for the first year or two after the rape,” Kirk said of her assault, which happened in 2012. “My progress was slow. I gained 60 pounds in one year. I couldn’t leave the house. I was just shutting down.

“You hear about these tech start-up environments where people can come together and grow their ideas in a much more accelerated way, and that is what my hope and goal for Sunlight Retreats is. You can experience all sorts of services right here. We jump-start things so people don’t feel stuck in their PTSD and where they’re at.” Kirk came up with the idea after attending a YMCA women’s retreat in Maryland.

As great as it was to get away from the stresses of everyday life, Kirk was finding there was no getting away from the trauma of her assault. But what if you combined the serenity and togetherness of a weekend retreat with a full-immersion healing experience?

It seemed like the thing Kirk herself was looking for. And if she was looking for it, surely other survivors would be looking for it, too. On Aug. 3, 2017 — five years to the day after she was raped — Kirk posted an interest list on Facebook to see if she was right.

She was.

“I think without the retreat, I would have felt alone, like, forever,” said Aly, a former San Diegan who attended January’s event. “To be surrounded by people who get it, that helped me get it. I feel like I can actually move on with my life. I have never felt the same since that retreat.”

Because of lodging limitations, the first Sunlight Retreat was limited to 15 attendees. The at-cost fee was $250 for the weekend, which covered food, lodging, insurance and liability, and workshops and training sessions. It was such a success, Kirk has organized another one.

The second Sunlight Retreat will be held Aug. 24 through 26 at a private home in San Diego County. While the August retreat runs three days instead of two, the fee is still $250. The overnight slots have been filled, but there is still room for a small group of day visitors at a discounted rate.

Scholarships are available. Kirk has also opened up an interest list on her website for a male-only retreat. As with the retreats for women, trans and non-binary participants are welcome.

The August retreat will be a lot like the January retreat. There will be restorative yoga, acupuncture and classes in cooking for PTSD, depression and anxiety, all provided by practitioners who are volunteering their time. Dr. Ghaed, a San Diego-based clinical psychologist who specializes in trauma and anxiety disorders, will talk about the science of trauma and how to start the recovery process.

There will be tears and laughter and a-ha moments. Thanks to feedback from earlier participants, there will be an extra session with the therapy dogs from Love on a Leash, San Diego Central Chapter. And there will be breakthroughs. Lots and lots of breakthroughs.

“For me, when Dr. Shiva talked about the patterns of behavior that survivors have, that really struck me,” said Aly, who said she found her dream job and got back into working out and volunteering after the retreat.

“I did all of the things she discussed. Things like throwing away all of my clothes. Crazy things that I laugh at now. I felt like I had all of these strange things that I was doing, and having her confirm to us that all of these things are normal, that was the most eye-opening thing. It changed my life.”

When she founded Sunlight Retreats, Kirk was hoping some transformative stories would result. She wasn’t expecting to be one of them. It’s a bonus she didn’t see coming, and yes, it changed everything. “I felt like I was doomed to suffer for the rest of my life, and I don’t feel that way anymore,” Kirk said. “If we don’t do anything with the pain, then it is just wasted pain. I think trying to make something positive out of it will help us all.”

For information on Sunlight Retreats, go to sunlightretreats.org.

 

programs and services for rape victims and survivors

Rape survivors retreat offers support and healing

By Karla Peterson

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JANUARY 19, 2018, 2:00 PM

The inaugural Sunlight Retreat for Survivors of Rape will be held Jan. 27-28 in a private location in San Diego. The weekend retreat will feature talks with local clinical psychologist and trauma specialist Shiva Ghaed, who will discuss overcoming triggers, stopping bad thoughts and understanding post-traumatic stress disorder. The retreat will also include hands-on training in self defense, restorative yoga and therapeutic cooking for PTSD, anxiety and depression. The fee for the retreat is $250 for the weekend, which covers food, lodging, talks and training sessions, and insurance and liability. It is open to female survivors who are 18 years old or older. Trans women and nonbinary people are welcome. If the overnight slots fill up, daytime slots will be available.

The Sunlight Retreat for Survivors of Rape is being organized by San Diegan Britany Catton Kirk, a rape survivor who needed a place to heal and get treatment, only to find that the kind of place she was looking for didn’t seem to exist. “About a year after I was raped, I happened to sign up for a YMCA women’s retreat in Maryland. It had nothing to do with sexual assault, but I thought, ‘Wouldn’t it be incredible if sexual-assault survivors could get away from their jobs and their kids and focus on healing and maybe make some friends?’ That’s what we are hoping to do,” Kirk said. Kirk also hopes this retreat will be the first of many. She plans to do at least one more San Diego retreat this year, and she would like to offer them in other cities as well. For information or to sign up, go to sunlightretreats.org or sunlightretreats.com.

 

DR GHAED rape trauma doctor

Get to know Dr.Shiva Ghaed

DR. SHIVA GHAED has been featured on NPR,KPBS, FOX,The LA Times,Vice News,People Magazine and more. Check out some media clips below to see the important volunteer work she is doing with Sunlight Retreats and the Route 91 communities to help trauma survivors heal.

KUSI

http://www.kusi.com/story/36557112/survivor-of-las-vegas-shooting-starts-local-support-group

CBS

http://www.cbs8.com/story/36549030/locals-come-together-to-help-following-las-vegas-shooting

ABC

https://youtu.be/KMFiODG2WlE

FOX

http://fox5sandiego.com/2017/10/08/in-cahoots-event-raises-money-for-las-vegas-shooting-victims/

San Diego Union Tribune

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/news/public-safety/sd-me-pubsafe-notebook-20171030-story.html

Iranian.com

https://iranian.com/2017/11/05/dr-shiva-ghaed-american-tragedy/

CBS

http://www.cbs8.com/story/36819437/san-diego-marine-honored-for-heroic-actions-during-las-vegas-shooting

ABC

https://www.facebook.com/JoeLittle10News/videos/1497742047008760/

Country Rebel

https://www.facebook.com/countryrebelclothing/videos/1634653183247021/

Comfort Cub Organization

https://youtu.be/JsVhRWlpFL4

San Diego Union Tribune & LA Times

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/lifestyle/people/sd-me-vegas-survivors-20180223-story.html

ABC

https://youtu.be/u-Hhc1FcMDE

KBPS (2 parts aired on 02-03Apr2018)

http://www.kpbs.org/news/2018/apr/02/first-person-las-vegas-survivor/

San Diego District Attorney's Office

Annual Citizens of Courage Awards - honored on 10Apr2018

https://www.citizensofcourage.com/

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/news/public-safety/sd-me-citizens-courage-20180410-story.html

https://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/Las-Vegas-Massacre-Survivors-Honored-at-Downtown-Ceremony--479321523.html

American Red Cross - Metro North (Red & White Ball) - Salute to Service and Valor, National Hero Award (to be honored on 28Apr2018)

https://patch.com/connecticut/greenwich/calendar/event/20180428/321356/american-red-cross-metro-new-york-north-2018-red-and-white-ball

San Diego Union Tribune (Note: The next retreat will take place in Aug 2018)

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/hoy-san-diego/news/sd-me-rape-retreat-20180119-story.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KMFiODG2WlE

(story starts at 4:45 approx into the one-year news report)

Preview YouTube video 10News at 6pm Top Stories

10News at 6pm Top Stories

Preview YouTube video Comfort Cub Route 91

Comfort Cub Route 91

https://youtu.be/u-Hhc1FcMDE

Preview YouTube video Vegas Massacre survivors hold local therapy group

Vegas Massacre survivors hold local therapy group


https://www.sunlightretreats.org/blog/2018/2/21/first-sunlight-retreat-for-survivors-of-rape-a-success

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/hoy-san-diego/news/sd-me-rape-retreat-20180119-story.html

https://www.google.com/amp/amp.fox5ny.com/news/las-vegas-massacre-heroes-trauma

http://www.fox5vegas.com/story/38389090/trauma-workshops-offered-for-1-october-survivors-first-responders

http://www.cbs8.com/story/38664401/mgm-resorts-sues-victims-of-las-vegas-massacre-denies-liability-lawyer-calls-action-outrageous

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/news/columnists/karla-peterson/sd-me-karla-rape-retreat-20180725-story.html


http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/lifestyle/people/sd-me-vegas-survivors-20180223-story.html

Channel 10 News

https://www.10news.com/news/survivors-of-the-route-91-massacre-hold-final-group-therapy-session

https://youtu.be/R3jYFAgTQPA

Channel 8 News http://www.cbs8.com/story/39175429/clinical-psychologist-releases-book-on-anniversary-of-las-vegas-massacre-to-share-her-journey-of-healing-and-launch-of-loveexpandscom

http://www.cbs8.com/story/39196880/las-vegas-shooting-san-diego-survivor-writes-book

KSON (radio)

https://kson.radio.com/media/audio-channel/last-support-group-those-affected-route-91-tragedy-tonight

VICE News – Joelle Martinez

https://news.vice.com/en_us/article/7xjwdb/this-country-music-venue-is-holding-therapy-sessions-for-las-vegas-shooting-survivors

NPR – Eric Westervelt (SF studio)

http://www.venuesnow.com/news/detail/a-year-after-route-91-new-vigilance-at-events

VenuesNow magazine – Brad Weissberg

http://www.venuesnow.com/news/detail/a-year-after-route-91-new-vigilance-at-events

Fox LA – Hal Eisner

http://www.foxla.com/home/las-vegas-massacre-turning-bad-memories-into-positivities

http://www.foxla.com/entertainment/features/fox-11-in-depth-the-las-vegas-massacre-one-year-later

San Diego Union Tribune – Alex Riggins

http://www.sandiegouniontribune.com/news/public-safety/sd-me-vegas-survivors-20181001-story.html#

People Magazine – Chris Harris (Investigative Crime Reporter)

https://people.com/crime/las-vegas-survivor-ptsd-expert-recounts-horror-new-book/

Channel 7 News – Liberty Zabala

Oct 1

https://www.nbcsandiego.com/on-air/as-seen-on/Locals-Help-San-Diego-Las-Vegas-Shooting-Victims-Heal_San-Diego-494762331.html

Sep 30

https://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/Filmmaker-Psychologist-Team-up-to-Heal-1-Year-After-Las-Vegas-494745931.html

Incahoots 1-year gathering

Fox 5 (also working on obtaining this clip…I heard it was nicely done but haven’t found it yet – contacted the station)

Channel 11

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D5bjLeQ6mVM

Channel 7

https://www.dropbox.com/s/8b0xifuq0aq0wfu/20181001%20Route%2091%20Anniversary%20Air.mpg?dl=0

EyezOnDC

https://www.facebook.com/clarissalesterkenty/videos/10215329683828063/?hc_ref=ARQmC4hgca-gkxnMkKjJLZ5f5rvUS5jxxBrK5dWrusHvzRiqIObN0oTzqhorQXpjJNs

Upcoming scheduled events:

Panelist (PTSD and trauma subject matter expert) at annual conference for National Hispanic Caucus of State Legislators (Dec 6-9, 2018)

Keynote Speaker (PTSD and trauma subject matter expert) at annual conference for Florida Association of Private Investigators (Feb 20-24, 2019)